Well, the issue is with ‘alone’ or ‘lonely’! In Farsi, we say ‘tanha’ for both.
I have always been and am a person who prefers to be alone most of the time, but being alone does not mean feeling lonely. You know, the good thing about loneliness is that it allows you to rest from everything and think about life and issues.
Most of the time, I think too much about things and want people to be comfortable, and I think this is a characteristic of introverted people. But what if this makes us uncomfortable? Does it matter to anyone! It’s not selfishness (and it doesn’t even matter if it is) to value yourself and behave in a way that you are comfortable.
For a long time, I was thinking about what to do and tried different things, had fun, talked, and in short, everything. But as Avril Lavigne says: I realized that it was in me all along
(Be sure to listen to her song too, Avril Lavigne — It was in me)
So I thought about the things that help me be comfortable and most of the time it’s being alone. People I’ve talked to try to say that this is a bad thing and try to say that this behavior needs to change while we don’t request any change! But you know what?
The difference between these two dice that everyone catches their mistake is that being alone does not mean feeling lonely and in my opinion, this is not a disorder, it means being introverted, plus who cares what others think? Everyone has the right to live their life the way they want and if someone can’t respect that, it’s their problem.
I needed to say this because I know it’s hard for people like me to talk about such things and I wanted to say that thinking this way is not a problem and if you also think this way, then respect yourself :)